Question Authority ALWAYS!

In 2005, or maybe right before the end of 2004, Rodney ask me once in an e-mail if I dared to question the judges decision about Nikque’ custody and I was amazed. Did he think a judge who had NEVER met our daughter and knew virtually nothing about her would be better suited to make decisions for her that he or I? The need for a judge to make those decisions represents a miserable failure on our part in my eyes. He on the other hand considered it a validation that he was right and once again, it removed his requirement to take responsibility. No doubt one day he will explain his behavior to Nikque by saying he was following the judge’s orders, after all that’s how he explains it to everyone now. Unfortunately for him, Nikque will most likely not allow this shift in accountability because the judge wasn’t there when he dragged her out the way he did on so many occasions last year.

I feel confidently that I have been a good parent and continue to be, and if I am correct in calling a Custody Evaluation a sort of “Forensic Psychology”, then I would expect this science will find me to be a good parent and while I have experienced a great deal of bad science, I have certainly experienced a greater amount of good science and credit science for much of the growth in my life over the past three years. I don’t think I am perfect and I am open to learn where I need improvements. If they are things I already know, I’m probably already working on improvement and I’m not inclined to focus on the unfinished work. However I am happy to focus on what I believe I have done correctly and while the above is meant to provide a background into how things have evolved, how I’ve attempted to handle and resolve conflict and find solutions to problems big and small, I think spending some time summarizing my parental highlights are worthwhile.